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Andrew Huberman · 32 episodes · 546 sourced insights

What Andrew Huberman says about relationships

Everything Andrew Huberman and guests said about relationships across 32 episodes — each point linked to the exact second on YouTube. Sourced expert opinion, not medical advice.

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Challenges the famous Kubler-Ross five stages of grief as no longer fully supported by neuroimaging and modern research.
00:01:31Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Reveals that one brain area, the inferior parietal lobule, uniquely encodes physical distance, time spacing, and emotional closeness alike.
00:07:16Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Reframes grief as the process of unbraiding attachment from our brain's space-time predictions about a person.
00:09:49Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Links intense, prolonged yearning to having more oxytocin receptors in motivation and craving circuits, not greater capacity for love.
00:19:10Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
A bereavement writing study found no overall benefit until researchers split subjects by vagal tone, where only high-vagal-tone people benefited.
00:23:50Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Cites data showing people with complicated grief have significantly higher late-day (4pm and 9pm) cortisol levels.
00:28:28Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Recommends viewing morning sunlight as the single most powerful tool to regulate cortisol and support healthy grieving.
00:30:31Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Brain imaging shows grief activates motivation, craving, and pursuit circuits, overlapping with reward pathways.
00:02:35Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
A core function of attachment is the brain's ability to predict when and where you will see someone again.
00:08:17Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
After a loss the brain keeps making predictions the person will appear, called reverberatory activity, driving the yearning.
00:10:51Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Monogamous prairie voles work hard to reach a lost mate and have far more oxytocin receptors in the nucleus accumbens than non-monogamous voles.
00:17:05Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Counterfactual 'what if' thinking is an infinite, guilt-tied landscape that strengthens maladaptive bonds and should be avoided.
00:14:29Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
The bereavement study was published in Biological Psychology under the title 'Emotional disclosure for whom? A study of vagal tone in bereavement.'
00:21:45Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
In a healthy person cortisol peaks about 45 minutes after waking and drops to very low by 4pm and 9pm.
00:27:24Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Neuroplasticity, the literal rewiring that grieving requires, happens during deep sleep and non-sleep deep rest (NSDR).
00:32:36Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2026
Grief rarely responds to antidepressants while depression often does, showing they are distinct brain processes.
00:11:24Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Huberman cites research showing complicated grief activates the nucleus accumbens reward center, proving grief is a craving state.
00:18:17Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Recent research refutes the idea that everyone moves linearly through Kubler-Ross's five stages of grief.
00:14:33Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Huberman reads Richard Feynman's letter to his dead wife Arline, ending 'I don't know your new address,' as a perfect illustration of grief's space-time-closeness map.
00:40:21Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Trace cells fire to signal the absence of someone who should be at a location, explaining why you expect the deceased to walk through the door.
01:07:04Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
People with the highest pre-treatment adrenaline levels have the worst complicated-grief outcomes, so calming your baseline can inoculate you against it.
01:20:15Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
A vagal tone study found emotional-disclosure writing only helped people with high respiratory sinus arrhythmia.
01:37:52Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Complicated grief, which fails to resolve over a prolonged period, occurs in about one in ten people.
00:09:51Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Dopamine is not about feeling good but about putting us into a state of desiring and seeking things.
00:19:20Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
The inferior parietal lobule is uniquely activated by distance in space, time, and emotional closeness alike.
00:29:43Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Grief resembles a phantom limb; Huberman felt a touch on his neck for years after his graduate advisor died.
00:57:41Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Monogamous prairie voles have far more oxytocin receptors in the nucleus accumbens than non-monogamous ones.
01:11:50Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Exhales slow the heart rate and inhales speed it up, a relationship called respiratory sinus arrhythmia you can train.
01:32:41Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Complicated grievers show significantly higher 4pm and 9pm cortisol than non-complicated grievers.
01:46:13Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Viewing morning sunlight without sunglasses or windows regulates cortisol; doing it through glass is at least 50 times less effective.
01:48:49Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Huberman kept reflexively expecting calls from his deceased advisor whose number still showed on his phone.
00:45:09Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · May 2022
Keltner claims just one minute of awe a day reduced long COVID symptoms in patients.
00:33:49Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
His dream awe experiment was to have participants meet 7'2" Shaquille O'Neal in person, but it couldn't be done.
00:23:25Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
A symphony conductor told Keltner that musical awe is fundamentally 'all about time' and what it does to our sense of time.
00:40:01Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
A Grateful Dead documentary names cocaine as what killed the collective spirit of music, because 'it's the me drug.'
01:08:33Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Keltner says he was advising Facebook when algorithms 'making people hate each other' were put in place.
01:23:39Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Huberman's contrarian theory: social media is the antithesis of awe because it crams all space-time into a tiny aperture.
01:33:35Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Huberman asks Keltner the only guest he's ever asked whether he believes in life after death; Keltner says yes.
02:14:01Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Keltner describes a transcendent experience the night his brother died of colon cancer that shifted him from agnostic to believing.
02:14:33Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Alan Cowen used AI to code 2 million videos across 144 cultures, finding ~75% cross-cultural overlap in facial expressions.
00:07:54Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
The field has expanded from Ekman's 6 basic emotions to roughly 20 distinct facial-expression states.
00:06:21Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
A UCSF study had people 75+ take a weekly 'awe walk' for 8 weeks, yielding more awe, more kindness, and less physical pain.
00:29:08Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Belonging to social community is linked to about a 10-year gain in life expectancy (meta-analysis of 350,000 people).
01:31:30Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
U.S. farmers markets went from near-nonexistent in the '90s to about 9,000 today, valued largely for community.
01:25:11Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Roughly 30% of meals in the U.S. are now eaten alone; picnics are down by half and church attendance has fallen to ~55%.
01:49:04Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
In Keltner's fraternity study, the more men got embarrassed while teasing, the more they liked each other.
01:38:45Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Many drugs (aspirin, cocaine, kratom) are plant alkaloids that pharma companies bioprospect, isolate, and synthesize.
02:00:29Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Robin Carhart-Harris's data show no benefit from microdosing on major depression versus two guided psilocybin sessions.
02:01:00Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Joe Strummer ran the Paris Marathon reportedly while smoking and with no training, and hosted lifelong campfires in Manhattan.
02:09:19Dr. Dacher Keltner · Huberman Lab · Apr 2026
Becky argues that what most parents call 'guilt' (skipping dinner with friends to stay with a kid) is NOT guilt at all but absorbing someone else's feelings into your own body.
01:09:05Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Defines guilt precisely as the feeling you have when you act out of alignment with your values, making it a useful signal rather than a burden.
01:07:34Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Calls repair 'the most important relationship strategy' and notes its built-in duality: to get good at repair, step one is messing up.
00:47:15Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Becky warns technology is reshaping our basic evolutionary drive of one-to-one attachment, an argument she says she's never heard made before.
02:15:23Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Reveals her Good Inside 'frustration tolerance' framework: the gap between not knowing and knowing is the 'learning space,' and frustration is the feeling you're supposed to have there.
02:46:34Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Shares Miss Edson's lesson: if something feels too hard to start, it just means the first step isn't small enough.
03:23:58Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Tells the story of disarming her son's shame over hidden puzzle pieces by confessing her own childhood theft instead of punishing him.
03:05:53Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Recounts a department chair advising her to get a big thick desk so that when employees cry she can slide them a Kleenex without being pulled into their emotions.
02:01:29Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Becky's principle: information doesn't scare kids as much as the absence of information scares kids.
00:05:41Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Therapy doesn't change the past or remove pain; what helps is adding a coherent narrative and support to the pain.
00:10:22Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Huberman notes humans may be the only species that sheds tears for emotional reasons, per Stanford psychiatrist Karl Deisseroth.
00:33:39Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Tears contain hormones/pheromones that we can smell and that can alter the biology of people around us (per Noam Sobel).
00:35:15Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Kids build capability by watching themselves get through hard things, not from being successful or having tasks done for them.
02:18:01Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Neural rewiring requires frustration-driven adrenaline/norepinephrine during learning, but the actual rewiring happens during sleep.
02:52:17Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Huberman cites roughly 75% of people aged 7-18 being massively sleep deprived, harming the plasticity that consolidates learning.
02:52:48Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
An fMRI study shows brain 'guilt' circuitry can light up even when a person knows with certainty they didn't do the thing they're accused of.
01:51:41Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
We learn the alphabet through song because rhythmic melody fragments information into a beginning, middle, and end the brain encodes more easily.
03:21:22Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
'The more you can locate someone, the more you respect their boundaries' — knowing what a person values and stands for builds trust.
01:25:14Dr. Becky Kennedy · Huberman Lab · Jan 2025
Men rate women's body odors as most attractive during the pre-ovulatory phase, and oral contraception eliminates this effect in both directions.
00:03:12Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Childhood attachment style measured as a pre-verbal toddler is strongly predictive of one's attachment style in adult romantic relationships.
00:32:50Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
All of desire, love, and attachment reduce to coordination of the autonomic nervous system, which Huberman calls the central 'seesaw' of relationships.
00:53:18Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Empathy in love is reframed not as feeling-matching but as autonomic matching, sometimes by going opposite to a partner's state.
01:09:37Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
The Gottmans can predict divorce with 94% accuracy from the Four Horsemen, with contempt the strongest predictor, called the 'sulfuric acid of relationships.'
01:16:30Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
fMRI research shows people tend to select partners whose resting brain states differ from, or are opposite to, their own.
01:43:06Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
People who depend most on a partner for 'self-expansion' actually form the most unstable bonds and rate alternative partners as more attractive.
02:04:35Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Driving dopamine too high to boost libido can lock the body in pursuit mode while making physical arousal impossible.
02:16:14Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
The same prairie vole species is monogamous in one US region and non-monogamous in another, differing mainly in brain vasopressin levels.
00:19:22Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
The book 'Attached' by two Columbia professors translates the strange situation research into tools for building secure adult attachment.
00:38:07Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Studies of WWII bombing showed children's stress physiology mirrored their mothers'; calm mothers produced calmer, less-traumatized kids.
00:44:53Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Sexual pursuit is sympathetic-driven, arousal is parasympathetic-driven, and orgasm/ejaculation flips back to sympathetic.
01:00:40Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Helen Fisher proposes sex drive is a way to 'forage' for love partners, with desire preceding love which precedes attachment.
01:23:46Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
The viral '36 questions that lead to love' work, Huberman argues, by synchronizing two people's autonomic nervous systems through shared narrative.
01:48:21Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Hormones and pheromones below conscious awareness drive 'chemistry,' including attraction or repulsion to a partner's smell and breath.
02:09:21Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Maca at 2-3 grams per day raises libido without changing testosterone or estrogen, and can offset SSRI-induced sexual dysfunction.
02:20:27Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
PEA, a compound found in chocolate, is known to increase sexual desire and the perceived intensity of sexual experiences.
02:25:10Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Indonesian Tongkat Ali is reportedly the most potent variety for libido and may raise free testosterone by lowering sex hormone binding globulin.
02:26:43Andrew Huberman · Huberman Lab · Feb 2022
Conti calls most popular relationship advice 'complete nonsense' and dismisses education, shared hobbies, and love languages as 'utterly irrelevant' to compatibility.
00:35:33Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Reframes the 'trauma bond' as not inherently bad—two people can bond around shared trauma in a way that makes them both healthier.
00:48:24Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Declares there is 'no such thing as a repetition compulsion'—repeated bad relationships are choices that can be changed, not compulsions.
01:20:25Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Claims a small percentage with narcissistic character structure 'does most of the damage on Earth,' driven by envy.
01:53:25Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Conti personally admits he feels attachment insecurity 'about just about everything' due to sudden painful losses in his life.
01:32:57Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Tells the story of a woman trapped in cyclic abuse who only needed a few hundred dollars for a carburetor to escape.
01:46:22Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Insists the reflex in conflict is usually NOT mentalizing—people think they understand the other when they actually don't.
02:43:56Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
A friend told Huberman his closest family relationships are 'all kind of transactional'; Conti and Huberman push back hard on that view.
02:11:27Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Huberman cites data that dopamine in certain brain areas can rise up to 60% after a Yoga Nidra session.
00:04:14Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Conti says an undergraduate power-dynamics political science course helped him more as a psychiatrist than medical school in that domain.
02:00:20Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Introduces 'the issue of the non-issue'—covert power dynamics where one partner can't raise a grievance for fear of retribution.
02:00:51Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Distinguishes jealousy (benign, motivating) from envy (destructive: bringing the other down feels as good as raising oneself).
01:54:29Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Uses a sex-drive mismatch (a '2' paired with an '8') to show how a generative 'five in the middle' can be better, not a compromise.
00:56:18Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
'Kindergarten'—Conti's one-word summary of good relationship skills: generosity, kindness, letting things go.
02:19:56Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Conti says the happiest people he sees are givers; goodness in the self causes success and happiness, not the reverse.
02:07:12Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
'Anytime you have a closed system without accountability, you're just rolling the dice' for oppression.
01:50:10Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
'Broken compass' metaphor: guiding yourself with a faulty map leads you to others with broken maps, leaving you both wandering.
02:57:11Paul Conti · Huberman Lab · Sep 2023
Westlund reframes all dog breeds by the wolf predatory sequence — sniffers, pointers, herders, chasers, grabbers, killers — rather than by wolf-vs-mastiff genetics.
00:08:15Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Argues the popular human idea of dog 'dominance' misapplies a sociological definition; ethologically dominance is only priority of access to resources.
00:28:43Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Claims humans have no role in any dominance hierarchy with dogs — behaviors we read as dominance are really learning, fear, or association.
00:35:58Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Debunks the idea that cats bring prey home as 'gifts' — they simply carry kills to where they feel safe.
01:00:25Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Huberman recounts the 2007 San Francisco Zoo tiger (Tatiana) that escaped, ignored the crowd, and targeted the specific people who taunted her.
01:15:27Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Westlund distinguishes imprinting (fast, mostly visual) from attachment bonds — dogs form secure or insecure attachment to owners, not imprinting.
01:40:37Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Huberman reveals he injected his neutered bulldog with 50mg of testosterone weekly and got an enthusiastic response from vets, not criticism.
01:49:00Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Westlund notes 20+ years of studies show neutering, especially in males, can increase fear, reactivity, aggression, and noise sensitivity.
01:53:11Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Wild horses forage up to 16 hours a day; captive feeding compresses this into minutes, causing problem behavior.
00:05:12Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Bulldogs were bred for bull-baiting; a pain-receptor mutation in the face sits near the gene that gives them their loose, jowly skin.
00:17:45Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Dogs wag predominantly to the left in negative emotional states and to the right in positive ones; cats show similar left/right lateralization.
00:39:38Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Play has tells called 'MARS' — Meta signals, Activity shifts, Role Reversals, and Self-handicap — that distinguish it from real fighting.
00:45:19Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
In Frans de Waal's capuchin study, a monkey paid in cucumber throws a tantrum after seeing another monkey paid a grape for the same task.
00:53:09Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Kittens handled at least an hour a day between two and eight weeks become lap cats; under 15 minutes a day produces 'aloof' cats.
00:59:22Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Cats head-bump to scent-mark and make everyone in the group smell the same; they use separate face glands for inner territory vs urine for the outskirts.
01:04:36Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Roughly 40% of a human brain's real estate is devoted to vision and another ~40% to motor behavior, dwarfing smell and touch.
01:09:47Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
In some waterfowl, females recognize males innately while males learn via sexual imprinting what a mate should look like.
01:35:52Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
About 40% of Americans own a dog versus roughly 15% in Norway, where neutering is banned except for medical reasons.
01:55:44Dr. Karolina Westlund · Huberman Lab · Apr 2025
Dr. K's third-year-resident patient had done six months of therapy just venting weekly, revealing that talking about feelings (especially for men) is often not enough.
00:33:10Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Dr. K spent 7 years training to become a monk before becoming a psychiatrist, and pushed back on Western models of the mind.
00:42:00Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
During his father's funeral he touched the cold body, felt grief, yet found the witnessing self at peace: 'the body is grieving, but I'm not grieving.'
01:07:25Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Cites a first case report of AI-induced psychosis: patient recovered on antipsychotics, relapsed into psychosis only after resuming AI use.
02:03:32Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Recounts a case of someone who killed their mother and died by suicide after an AI reinforced their paranoid delusions about her.
02:05:04Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Predicts that in ~60 years society will talk about AI the way we now talk about nicotine and tobacco.
02:10:13Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Admits he was the 'failure to launch' archetype: 5.5 years to graduate with a 2.4 GPA, started med school at 28, couldn't support himself until residency at 32.
02:32:23Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Reveals he is a trained Reiki healer, crystal healer and Bach-flower practitioner but won't promote them because he sees no scientific basis.
02:56:58Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Distress tolerance, perfectionism and rumination are 'transdiagnostic factors' that raise risk across many mental illnesses, and distress tolerance is collapsing.
00:12:59Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
A neutral observer correctly detects flirting only about 30% of the time (studies range 24-42%); ambiguity in flirting is a feature, not a bug.
00:23:20Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
In the Eastern model, anything you say after 'I am...' (professor, son, loser) is the ego, not your true self.
00:48:15Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
The Vashishtha Samhita prescribes a cardiac-coherence breathing ratio of roughly 1:4:8 (e.g. inhale 16s, hold 64s, exhale 32s).
01:41:43Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Erectile dysfunction in men under 30 has climbed from about 5% (20-30 years ago) to roughly 20%.
02:39:43Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
In analyses of charisma, looks rank only about sixth; purpose, vision and ability to handle adversity matter more.
02:20:29Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Drive for muscularity is inversely correlated with relationship length: 'by all means get muscular, but want it less.'
02:22:33Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Lesbian couples have the highest divorce rate (~60%) and women are far more likely to initiate divorce; men's post-divorce cortisol, inflammation and heart-attack risk spike.
02:28:13Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
On a rickety-bridge date couples form a stronger bond, illustrating that shared emotional experience (not profiles) fosters love.
02:50:11Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Roughly half of academic studies on charisma are published in religious-studies journals.
02:48:37Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K) · Huberman Lab · Mar 2026
Buss says he abandoned the long-popular dual mating strategy hypothesis and now endorses the mate switching hypothesis to explain why most women have affairs.
00:51:09Dr. David Buss · Huberman Lab · Nov 2021
About 70% of women who have affairs report falling in love with their affair partner, which Buss argues fits mate switching, not good-genes acquisition.
00:53:19Dr. David Buss · Huberman Lab · Nov 2021

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